Archive for the ‘Self Help’ Category
Wednesday, August 20th, 2008 |
We are to ourselves just what we think we are
-Phineas Parkhurst Quimby
Inventorizing is not just a term that we use in business. We use it also to build (or re-build) our self image. Those who are recovering from a loss, or a really bad blow in life must start reorganizing by taking note of what’s left.
It’s easy enough to say “I’ve lost everything” when all the things around you, including your feelings are in disarray. Start by realizing that you are still alive. The fact that you can still feel something means you can still feel relief. No matter how painful the hurt, if you are still hurting, it means you can also feel it subside.
Stand up, take a look around you and within you. Be a friend to yourself and be compassionate to what your heart is telling you. It hurts from all the torture. Your better qualities have not left you, you just became blind to them. Look at them in a new light as you stand up from a bad tumble.
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Monday, July 21st, 2008 |
Love-Junkie? That’s me.
Romance is a feel-good thing we crave for, long for and dream about. It will never cease to be a factor in our daily lives as women. We need it to be inspired somewhat, and we know it. I feel sad when I hear stories about couples that find themselves lying next to a stranger after 30 or so years of marriage. One wonders what happened to the fairytale wedding that propelled the marriage. That they lasted that long means they have weathered most storms right?
Sadly, some unions lose the romance and become jaded. I never thought it’s be possible to get jaded together, but apparently it is. Apparently, it doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to grow away from a partner. The couple’s relationship is at the center of the family’s life. There was husband and wife before there was mother and father.
A woman’s healthy self esteem sometimes stems from the fact that she knows she is loved, and wanted by her partner. Like the cliche goes, a woman ‘blooms’ inside a loving relationship, making her productive, able and all the more willing to pursue endeavors and businesses.
Kids will grow up and soon, it will be just you and your partner again. When the kids are able to take care of themselves, we can relax with our partners. Feeling the love and appreciation of our partners strengthens us and keeps us going. Romance and intimacy play a significant role in keeping us confident.
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Monday, July 21st, 2008 |
Technology and progress are concepts that remain ‘just concepts’ until one goes out of her way to learn it. Computers and internet knowledge were just recently introduced, and the whole world adjusted to accommodate them, particularly the businesses. Suddenly, a mandatory requirement of any job opportunity is computer knowledge. Those people who are blessed with the curiosity to make this whole new world work are among the ones who are sought after and constantly badgered. The few, the proud, the IT people.
Some say that IT is common sense and a business owner can self-learn. This isn’t quite true. In fact, most people would rather let professionals do their networks rather than risk a crucial aspect of the business, such as the whole payroll automation process. Suddenly, human error in production means that a programmer forgot to enter a code or a snippet of information in a database.
The good news is business owners don’t have to be IT experts to be in business. They can hire a technical support staff to figure something out for them. However, there is a danger in hiring an IT support staff. Strict clauses in work contracts must be set for protection of your business data. Your IT guy could run off with the technology you paid for, and that will be disastrous.
Businesses don’t need an in-house IT department, they can simply outsource it. A reliable IT solutions company such as our advertiser NY IT Consulting can do the job of keeping the business’ network flowing smoothly.
What else does a non-techie business owner have to do? Read and re-read agreements, including the fine print… or learn IT fast.
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Friday, July 18th, 2008 |
Have you noticed how people blog? Some talk about their varied interests, some talk about their families, and some others talk about the things that drive them to succeed. One thing that’s common among those who chose to share their lives over the net is the willingness to interact with the world. Putting your thoughts out there for all the world to see is therapy to some, including myself.
If you haven’t visited my other (more evil) blog yet, please do so using the link above.
As you can see, I keep a multitude of blogs. Maybe it’s just the way I think, really. If I want to concentrate on something, I have to separate it from other things. The themes and voices of my blogs differ, but those who already know me well could tell that those are all mine. See, a part of me is in every word, every thought, every element of my blogs. All the nuances that make up my online presence represent me, and all the weirdly girly goodness that I am.
If you still don’t have an online presence, build one now. Share your thoughts with the world and let others find you. These are people who are like you yet unique in their own small ways.
For those looking for a nicer name for their free Blog, here’s a good one: diva.thoughts.com. This name could still be available, and you don’t have to pay anything to get it. Thoughts.com is a new blogging platform for those who are like me; blogging enthusiasts who love to type on a keyboard. They were also kind enough to compensate this diva for this mention.
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Sunday, July 13th, 2008 |
We have all been burnt before. From the moment we learned how to handle things as kids to the time when we are old enough to know better, we get rubbed the wrong way, maligned and other things that make us feel like we did something wrong. While we find it so easy to say “forgive and forget”, this line is often translated as “forget and never learn”.
We often think of forgiveness as an action related with our external connections without realizing that the same notion applies to ourselves. I, myself, have been in a situation wherein I focused on forgiving others rather than myself first.
One example: I have always disliked how a boyfriend made me look like a fool by cheating on me. Because of this, I felt that I hated him and anything remotely related to him. I have since forgiven him for his transgression but still could not be comfortable talking to him. Now, I realize what was lacking. I have yet to forgive myself for letting him take advantage of my cluelessness.
The Diva’s Creed of Self Forgiveness
Say this to yourself whenever you feel depressed, sad or self pitying. This has always worked for me. This, for me, is the first step to forgiving others:
I (your name) forgive myself for being (insert negative adjectives here, e.g. stupid). I vow to learn from this experience and never let myself feel down for being (insert negative adjective here) again.
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