Archive for the ‘Self Love’ Category
Wednesday, August 20th, 2008 |
We are to ourselves just what we think we are
-Phineas Parkhurst Quimby
Inventorizing is not just a term that we use in business. We use it also to build (or re-build) our self image. Those who are recovering from a loss, or a really bad blow in life must start reorganizing by taking note of what’s left.
It’s easy enough to say “I’ve lost everything” when all the things around you, including your feelings are in disarray. Start by realizing that you are still alive. The fact that you can still feel something means you can still feel relief. No matter how painful the hurt, if you are still hurting, it means you can also feel it subside.
Stand up, take a look around you and within you. Be a friend to yourself and be compassionate to what your heart is telling you. It hurts from all the torture. Your better qualities have not left you, you just became blind to them. Look at them in a new light as you stand up from a bad tumble.
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Sunday, July 27th, 2008 |
Many people have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
- by Helen Keller
I have always believed that if someone wants something so badly that she can taste it, feel it in her hands and smell it, she will get it eventually. This is considering that she will do everything in her power to get it. A single minded purpose to obtain our goals will make it happen.
In the course of making things happen for us, temptations to let go of our intent come to seduce us out of our resolve. These could be doubts in our abilities, alternative choices offered by others, and simply lethargy, the loss of the will to pursue a dream.
A few things that one has to consider in setting goals
1. One has to delineate a specific objective
2. Mapping out a step-by-step strategy
3. Following the strategy strictly and systematically
4. Adjusting to some setbacks but moving forward nonetheless
5. Staying humble in victory
Like a guiding light house, one must go to the direction of her dreams no matter what happens. Never deviating from the path leading to ultimate gratification. Loyalty to a purpose is the vow we give to ourselves and the promise we must keep.
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Sunday, July 27th, 2008 |
We meet people in our daily off line lives and over the internet. Under the latter, they get to know us via our blogs and our online presence in forums and communities. Do we know exactly what they remember about us?
For sure, not everyone will remember us a few hours after the encounter, but we leave behind an image in their minds. The thing about knowing how your brand is perceived is that you have no control as to how others see it; you can only do your best to improve it and make it effective enough for others to remember you longer than they would a fixture.
We are given the privilege of introducing ourselves once and only once to people. Some know of us only through the others who we introduced ourselves to. That one time introduction is enough to leave a mark, to inspire, and to incite a reaction.
People will more likely remember something that provoked a feeling, it could be delight or the opposite, and this entirely depends on your objectives. Opportunities are sometimes like cracks in the wall, narrow and unyielding, but if we find a way to get our points across without much effort, we have mastered the art of self promotion.
Our sponsor, Brand Identity Guru, reiterates that Branding your online business is easier when you have established what you want people to remember about you.
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Monday, July 21st, 2008 |
Love-Junkie? That’s me.
Romance is a feel-good thing we crave for, long for and dream about. It will never cease to be a factor in our daily lives as women. We need it to be inspired somewhat, and we know it. I feel sad when I hear stories about couples that find themselves lying next to a stranger after 30 or so years of marriage. One wonders what happened to the fairytale wedding that propelled the marriage. That they lasted that long means they have weathered most storms right?
Sadly, some unions lose the romance and become jaded. I never thought it’s be possible to get jaded together, but apparently it is. Apparently, it doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to grow away from a partner. The couple’s relationship is at the center of the family’s life. There was husband and wife before there was mother and father.
A woman’s healthy self esteem sometimes stems from the fact that she knows she is loved, and wanted by her partner. Like the cliche goes, a woman ‘blooms’ inside a loving relationship, making her productive, able and all the more willing to pursue endeavors and businesses.
Kids will grow up and soon, it will be just you and your partner again. When the kids are able to take care of themselves, we can relax with our partners. Feeling the love and appreciation of our partners strengthens us and keeps us going. Romance and intimacy play a significant role in keeping us confident.
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Sunday, July 13th, 2008 |
We have all been burnt before. From the moment we learned how to handle things as kids to the time when we are old enough to know better, we get rubbed the wrong way, maligned and other things that make us feel like we did something wrong. While we find it so easy to say “forgive and forget”, this line is often translated as “forget and never learn”.
We often think of forgiveness as an action related with our external connections without realizing that the same notion applies to ourselves. I, myself, have been in a situation wherein I focused on forgiving others rather than myself first.
One example: I have always disliked how a boyfriend made me look like a fool by cheating on me. Because of this, I felt that I hated him and anything remotely related to him. I have since forgiven him for his transgression but still could not be comfortable talking to him. Now, I realize what was lacking. I have yet to forgive myself for letting him take advantage of my cluelessness.
The Diva’s Creed of Self Forgiveness
Say this to yourself whenever you feel depressed, sad or self pitying. This has always worked for me. This, for me, is the first step to forgiving others:
I (your name) forgive myself for being (insert negative adjectives here, e.g. stupid). I vow to learn from this experience and never let myself feel down for being (insert negative adjective here) again.
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